You probably already know that the intensity of a woman's orgasm can vary wildly We can give women light, playful orgasms that make the hairs on her skin stand while she giggles and squeals. We can give them deep, full body orgasms that start in her hips and send pulsating waves of pleasure down to her toes and back again.
The use of medical language mystifies human experience, increasing dependence on professionals and experts. If sexuality becomes fundamentally a matter of vasocongestion and myotonia… personal experience requires expert interpretation and explanation. Freud, as brilliant as he was, defined just two types of female orgasm— vaginal and clitoral.
No one actually needs to rally for the wonders of an orgasm when there's enough research—as psychologist and sex therapist Mary Jo Rapini explains—that the tremor-inducing release of serotonin and endorphins can boost the immune system and decrease stress and anxiety. But when there's still a wide "pleasure gap" to bridge today—the term describing the slim number of women who experience orgasms during sex in relation to men—the main question is how. Below, we consulted advice from across the scientific spectrum, from medical studies to sexperts to sex therapists, on ways to enhance the female orgasm and feel connected to your partner without giving up your primal right to come.
The clitoris is recognized as an easy and effective path to orgasm. The G-spot can be another powerful pleasure point. But the cervix?
You can still have a great time without having one. Which is why the first tip on our guide to having better orgasms is experimenting, and being open to trying new things. I asked the masturbation geniuses behind OMGYes for their tips on having the best orgasms, and their response was eye-opening.
Verified by Psychology Today. Stress and Sex. This blog will do the same for another gendered gap.
First, get undressed and lie on your back using a pillow for neck support. Your legs should be bent and spread, feet together in butterfly position. If this makes your hips uncomfortable on one or both sides.
But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist based in San Francisco, to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous. Q: It took me a while to figure it out, but I finally learned how to orgasm!
There are so many articles online devoted to just how hard it is for women to have orgasms. Fair enough. But we wanted to delve into the happier world of accidental or unexpected orgasms.
All photos by Bruna Arbex. Hattie tells me she has never even tried to touch herself and when she told me this, I was speechless. But for my friend Hattie—who wishes to remain anonymous so as not to uproot the sexual prowess of her previous partners—faking has been the only ever ending to her sexual exploits since she started having sex ten years ago. I think I thought I loved him more than he loved me so it was my way of giving him something.